First up is Rebekah, who kicked off "Bek's 30 in 30" leading up to her 30th birthday. Bekah arranged to have 25 first dates followed by 5 second dates. She had a $30 limit on each date and learned that dating can offer a lot of fun adventures.
Her project, which ended earlier this year, was followed by a long list of second, third, fourth, fifth dates and so on. She lives in Bountiful, Utah, loves cooking, traveling, and hunting for the perfect pair of shoes.
Q: What were you hoping to gain from your dating project experience?
Bek: I was hoping to meet a lot of new guys and start dating someone special. Honestly, I thought it would be a start to a serious relationship. That's what I want.
Q: How did you manage to find so many people to go out with you?
Bek: My friends are awesome. Most of my dates were set-ups. I put the word out there over text and facebook that I needed dates and my friends came through for me. It was hard work though. I started "recruiting" a month in advance and by the time the first date came around I had enough guys. It's all about advertising and begging. :)
Q: In what ways did your dating project seem different from your dating life previously?
Bek: There were a few differences. The dates didn't seem that different other than the fact that I had a date every single night instead of once a month. But one of the big differences was that I made my friends set me up. I all but begged them to set me up. Wait - I take that back - I begged a couple of them.Before my dating project, when a friend would say they wanted to set me up with someone, I would tell them okay and just let them do it if they really wanted to. Most of those dates never happened. So when I started talking about the dating project, I went to all of those friends and told them that now is the time to do it.
Q: What was the most memorable part of your project?
Bek: There were SO many fun things I did during this project. I'll tell you my top three: 1) Going to the shooting range with Tyler E. Talk about a rush! Loved it! 2) The treasure hunt with Jonathan. That was one of the most creative and awesome dates I have ever been on. 3) Night kayaking with Johnny. I can't even tell you how fun that was. 100% fun! I live really close to the pond and every time I drive by I think, I need to do that again!
Q: Would you do it again? And if so, what would you do differently?
Bek: I would DEFINITELY do it again. I went out with 25 amazing guys and had a great time with every single one of them. I would do something different though. I would take away the expectations. I really liked a bunch of the guys and I would have loved to get to know more of them. I had a hard time picking only 5 to go out on a second date. I think the most important thing I learned about myself during this project is that I like to take my time in getting to know someone. One or two dates is not enough time to decide if I want a relationship. It's definitely enough time to know if I want to see that person again, but I feel like I might have given myself too high of expectations. If I were to do it again, I would take out round two and only have first dates, then leave it open for a possibility with any of the guys.
Has Rebekah inspired you to do your own dating project? Check out the details of my dating challenge here!