31 Dates in 31 Days

WELCOME!

Thanks for stopping by! If this is your first time here, let me explain what you've happened-upon and how it works.

I kicked off 2009 (and my 31st year) with a dating challenge that I hoped would teach me something about where I was going wrong in my relationships. Was I just choosing the wrong men? Was I being too picky? Was I investing too much too soon? Or was I not doing enough?
I wanted to learn quickly and learn from the best. So I developed an intense one month "master's class in men" and enrolled myself. My teachers: 30 incredible single men who were willing to take me on a first date and have a fun time in New York City.

My 31st date fell on Valentine's Day. One man was chosen for an incredible second date to Broadway's hottest ticket in town and dinner at one of the Upper West Side's finest.

When I started this project, I had no intentions of finding a boyfriend. In fact, I had no idea what would happen. I just wanted to learn something. What I found was more than I could have ever imagined!

This website is currently under construction. The posts from my dates have been temporarily removed while I update this site, but please feel free to check out "The Rules" to see how "31 Dates in 31 Days" works.

I'm currently writing a book about my experience (no publisher yet, so keep your fingers crossed for me!). The book will include:
*how I went from having no hope in romance to believing I could fall in love with many men at once!
*more details about the men and my dates
*more insight about why I did it
*the behind-the-scenes developments that I couldn't dare share on a blog
*how to have a fun date for only $31
*what I learned throughout the process
*the dramatic changes the dates made in my life
*how I managed to balance all of the dates with work, sleep, and my new relationships
*how I was able to get set up with 30 great men
*what happened after my amazing Valentine's Day date
and...
*how the project helped me find a keeper!

I'll be sure to update this site and let you know when the book is finished!

Thanks again for visiting!
-Tamara

So where did we leave off?

Oh yes.

Last you heard, I had just finished my whirlwind, life-changing adventure. I had gone out on Date #31 with this guy, Evan. You remember him, right?

Well.

Since then, I've been writing the book version of my story, 31 Dates in 31 Days. I've also been giving myself some breathing room, enjoying New York City, travelling... and most of that has been with Evan. We've been having a lot of fun!

In the last eight months, we've travelled to DC, Philadelphia, L.A., Sacramento, Seattle, Portland, and just last weekend we were in New Hampshire. That's where he gave me this:

Haha!!!! Yes! I'm serious! Evan and I are ENGAGED!

We haven't set a date yet, but it will be soon (as in December or January)!

I've been lucky to become friends with the other 29 guys I met (one is even Evan's roommate now and another was on vacation with us when we got engaged!).

It's funny. I'm sure all the guys who went out with me probably just see me as this chick they took out once for a few hours. But to me, they each hold this magnificent, special place in my soul as a teacher and friend. It's pretty remarkable and I will forever be grateful for my 31 Dates.

I'm nearing the finish line on my book (still no publisher, so please keep your fingers crossed for me!), which has been a learning experience in itself! What an incredible happy ending to the story, right?

So in the next couple months I'll be planning a wedding and finishing the manuscript! Wow! Too fun!

Thank you so much for being part of my fun adventure! I started out looking to learn something (anything!) and not only ended up changing my perspective on love and life -- I also met the man of my dreams! From cynic-of-love to fiancee... Can you believe it?

Neither can I!